Author Archives: advicefrommarta

Making the Bed

When I was a child, the only time I made my bed was at summer camp and my year of boarding school. For my first few years of college I slept on a mattress on the floor, making my bed … Continue reading

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Remembering Names

If you are in your 50s in the age of Facebook you can probably sort the names of people you went to high school with into four categories. There are your friends, the ones you still talk to and know, … Continue reading

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Sunday Morning Photos

When he’s bored with his own phone, my 14-year-old son likes to pick up my phone and go through the photos. My phone is 5 years old, so over a third of his life is stored in it. “You take … Continue reading

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9:00 AM Leaks

The other day, at about 9:00 am, we discovered a leak in our kitchen sinkĀ  and I suddenly realized why I’m so tired. It was not the leak. One rainy day when I was about 9 my BFF and I … Continue reading

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The Smell of Creosote

There was a storm the other day, just a little thunder, wind, and rain here, but farther to the north, it was a storm. When I went outside the next morning it smelled like creosote. More precisely, it smelled like … Continue reading

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The Kitchen Table

                          We have always been a kitchen table kind of family. We’re lucky, we have both an eat-in kitchen and a formal dining room. We use them both. … Continue reading

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Karen and Steve

The other day on Facebook, where all life happens now, a friend asked for the definition of a Karen. She was confused because she thought that previously “Karens” were the women lecturing others about face masks and calling the police … Continue reading

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A Good Crisis Wasted

Here in my middle class (increasingly upper middle class) suburb of Oak Park Illinois the mom groups are in a tizzy. It’s not the usual tizzy about teenagers without bike helmets, or people putting their poop bags in strangers’ garbage … Continue reading

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Other People’s Children

This morning I went to a bat mitzvah. In almost every bar/bat mitzvah there is a part where the other children in the congregation are invited to come up to the bimah. It usually takes a little coaxing, first, the … Continue reading

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Across the Aisle

On Sunday, my husband, teenage daughter and I took the El downtown to the ballet. When we got on a friend I don’t see often was unexpectedly on board and I was excited to chat with her. A few stops … Continue reading

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