The other day, at about 9:00 am, we discovered a leak in our kitchen sinkĀ and I suddenly realized why I'm so tired. It was not the leak. One rainy day when I was about 9 my BFF and I were in her mother's car, on the way somewhere, maybe to a party, maybe Sunday...
Family Life
The Smell of Creosote
There was a storm the other day, just a little thunder, wind, and rain here, but farther to the north, it was a storm. When I went outside the next morning it smelled like creosote. More precisely, it smelled like waking up at the hotel I used to manage in Desert Hot...
The Kitchen Table
We have always been a kitchen table kind of family. We're lucky, we have both an eat-in kitchen and a formal dining room. We use them both. We love them both. The kitchen table...
A Good Crisis Wasted
Here in my middle class (increasingly upper middle class) suburb of Oak Park Illinois the mom groups are in a tizzy. It's not the usual tizzy about teenagers without bike helmets, or people putting their poop bags in strangers' garbage cans, or the difficulties of...
The Trigger
It feels familiar. The sense of panic, the sense of dread, the need for information and action where none is available. Last year I was diagnosed with breast cancer and this is how it felt. Hurry up, get this test, do this, now wait for a few months while we schedule...
Other People’s Children
This morning I went to a bat mitzvah. In almost every bar/bat mitzvah there is a part where the other children in the congregation are invited to come up to the bimah. It usually takes a little coaxing, first, the Jewish kids bound up the stairs, they know what to do....


